The new year seems to be the ideal time to set countless goals and make an insane number of lists. I decided to share my resolutions for 2022 and a few tips for you all.
Nikki’s New Year Resolutions
Take more risks
Get back into my health journey (not prioritizing weight loss)
Visit new places
Clean up raggedy money habits
Enhance my PM skills
Get back to therapy
Do not try to change too many things at once
Do not give in to pandemic fatigue
Do not take any people baggage into the new year
Remember to check your dates (2022 not 2021)
Make self-care a priority
Check out my podcast, Venus in September, on Anchor! https://anchor.fm/nikki1844
I’ve used dating apps/websites off and on for around 8-9 years to supplement my in person interactions. Of my at least 75-100 first dates, most have been from online websites/apps. From those dates, I’ve been in 3 relationships that started from online dating (including my current one).
So what are some of the good things about online dating? As an introvert, it is a good way to meet people in local and in different areas. I’ve been on some really good dates. I’ve also been able to date outside of my “type”.
There’s also the bad…I’ve had some horrible dates. I’ve had some guys not take rejection well. I’ve invested time in people who were not interested in the same thing. That can SUCK!!!
Here are some tips:
• Use 3 to 5 up-to-date photos including full body
• Keep your bio effective and concise
• Do not overshare personal information
• Make sure (as much as possible) that you and the person you are communicating with have similar intentions for being on the site
• Communicate with the person for at least a few days to a week on the site before taking your communication off-line
• When initially exchanging contact information, do not give out your personal cell phone number. Give the person a Google voice number, a WhatsApp contact or something similar.
• Do not send anyone money
• Google that man or a woman before meeting
• Do not let them pick you up from your house. Try to arrange for a Uber or a Lyft if you do not have your own transportation.
• Meet in a public setting when you feel comfortable. Do not let the person pressure you into meeting any sooner than that.
• Pay attention to behaviors during the date
• Don’t be discouraged if this person doesn’t work out or if you only go on one date.
• Keep your options open until you find someone who you really like and have formed some type of relationship with them or until you feel comfortable with ceasing communication with others
• Stay optimistic, there’s at least one lid for every pot
Suggested free websites
Have you tried online dating?
1. The Brown Liquor Report
2. Ratchet & Respectable
3. Conversation Con Artists
4. Jade + X.D.
5. Here’s The Thing
6. The Read
7. Gettin’ Grown
What are some of your favorite podcasts?