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October 2021

Post #21: Swipe Right, Swipe Left…Tales from Online Dating

I’ve used dating apps/websites off and on for around 8-9 years to supplement my in person interactions. Of my at least 75-100 first dates, most have been from online websites/apps. From those dates, I’ve been in 3 relationships that started from online dating (including my current one).

Maybe they met on an online site…

So what are some of the good things about online dating? As an introvert, it is a good way to meet people in local and in different areas. I’ve been on some really good dates. I’ve also been able to date outside of my “type”.

There’s also the bad…I’ve had some horrible dates. I’ve had some guys not take rejection well. I’ve invested time in people who were not interested in the same thing. That can SUCK!!!

Here are some tips:

• Use 3 to 5 up-to-date photos including full body

• Keep your bio effective and concise

• Do not overshare personal information

• Make sure (as much as possible) that you and the person you are communicating with have similar intentions for being on the site

• Communicate with the person for at least a few days to a week on the site before taking your communication off-line

• When initially exchanging contact information, do not give out your personal cell phone number. Give the person a Google voice number, a WhatsApp contact or something similar.

• Do not send anyone money

• Google that man or a woman before meeting

• Do not let them pick you up from your house. Try to arrange for a Uber or a Lyft if you do not have your own transportation.

• Meet in a public setting when you feel comfortable. Do not let the person pressure you into meeting any sooner than that.

• Pay attention to behaviors during the date

• Don’t be discouraged if this person doesn’t work out or if you only go on one date.

• Keep your options open until you find someone who you really like and have formed some type of relationship with them or until you feel comfortable with ceasing communication with others

• Stay optimistic, there’s at least one lid for every pot

Suggested free websites

• Facebook

• Okcupid

• Tinder

• Bumble

Have you tried online dating?

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October 2021

Episode #2: Swipe Right, Swipe Left…Tales from Online Dating

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/venus-in-september/id1585922094?i=1000537569538

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July 2020

Post #6: The COVID-19 Diaries Part 1

I have been social distancing for almost five months. As a single person, it has been difficult. I stopped talking to the guy I was dating at the start of COVID-19 (for various reasons). Nothing particularly bad happened but we were just not on the same page.

I have gone on a few social distancing dates but nothing has come from them. Getting to know new people is super exhausting. I just haven’t been in the place to navigate all of the early BS of getting to know someone. It gets lonely sometimes but I am taking each day one day at a time. I am thankful for friends and family.

I am blessed to be able to work from home. All of my bills have been paid on time. I even have some left over for frivolous purchases. I have plenty of food and things to keep myself entertained.

I wish that the world was open but I understand why it’s not. I wanted to travel this year but that’s not happening. So many festivals and concerts have been cancelled and rescheduled for next year. I’ll just continue to wear my mask and wash my hands. BECAUSE DUH…

How have you been dealing with loneliness and social distancing during COVID-19?